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Thursday, March 19, 2020

Yay on Missing Out (YOMO)

For the type As reading this blog, which as law professors, I am assuming a majority, the current crisis is a real lesson about:

a) how little we can plan and control the universe.

b) how our routines and goals must be constantly reconfigured

c) how so many things we regularly value - time, travel, face-to-face learning, teaching, conferencing - might not be available for some time now.

d) how we might have been doing too much and too little at the same time.

Those who know me know that I love to travel, I over commit regularly to give talks all around, I love everything about campus life -- the rhythms, the vibrant students, the quirky colleagues, the visitors, the small and large events, the free food...and in my social life, I am a bit wacky about entertaining: our Hanukah party this year at our house included 200 hundred people, filling every meter in every space of our house. So naturally I am prone to FOMO - the Fear of Missing Out. But what if we adopted a YOMO mentality; less is more mindset; a say no stance, that so many of us academics [and even more so women academics] have trouble doing. For weeks on weeks I couldn't  make the decision to cancel my March talks (that were supposed to be happening as I write this)  in Singapore and Japan. Once I made the decision, I felt such a huge relief. Then I couldn't decide about cancelling my Chicago, Ohio, and Bay Area talks in April. I wanted to cancel but felt bad about the faculties that had relied on me in their schedules. The decision was made for me before I decided myself - the faculties cancelled all their in person events. I do know that I would have cancelled anyway with the new developments and escalation of the crisis in the past few weeks, but I question why I didn't cancel sooner rather than walk around with the burden and anxiety about not wanting to cancel something I had committed to. 

Can this crisis teach us to embrace YOMO ? Can we post-pandemic continue the lessons of doing less and focusing on what is most important to us. Travelling less is definitely more environmentally responsible. Entertaining less, well that one I will have to wrap my mind around because I do love hosting a fun potluck party! 



Posted by Orly Lobel on March 19, 2020 at 05:38 PM | Permalink


Interesting. Many are already occupied with the day after. But, to be reminded now, about environmental issues like traveling and polluting the environment, well, this is pure self deception, or "post rationalization" as called in administrative law.

One should " reach the bridge " first, and then, being attached or explore his feelings and perception, then decide. Maybe, the trauma shall reside for too long, and anyway, you would avoid traveling so much.

Here for example, titled:

" Coronavirus: Europe's 'Open Borders' System Faces Collapse "




Posted by: El roam | Mar 22, 2020 1:12:48 PM

Brava, Orly! Good for us to remember!

Posted by: Nancy Rapoport | Mar 22, 2020 11:57:19 AM

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