Wednesday, May 25, 2005
My Dispensability Has Been Proven
As some of you have noticed, I've been away for the last ten days, but I'm glad to see (and of course hardly surprised) that the blog has flourished in my absence. I won't speculate about which ways the arrows of causation are running here, though I do want to thank Ethan and our guest bloggers for running the asylum so proficiently...
Anyway, lots to catch up on, but I thought I'd report first on the most important development in my life that occurred recently. Last Thursday night, in a little village called Khad Nes (aka Had Ness) , which overlooks the Kinneret (Sea of Galilee), I became the luckiest guy on earth.
Wendi Adelson agreed to marry me. She now wears what she likes to call a "big girl ring," which I find has proven a worthwhile investment in terms of its deterrent powers alone. All I can say is: Wow, did I win the lottery of life. And it is a sentiment with which my friends and family eagerly share.
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Tracked on May 26, 2005 1:20:00 AM
Congrats and best wishes!
Posted by: reader | May 26, 2005 12:04:52 AM
Posted by: Daniel Solove | May 26, 2005 1:52:07 AM
Posted by: Orly Lobel | May 26, 2005 9:48:15 AM
Also, I'm interested in your analysis of engagement rings as deterrence. Let me ask, is there more than one purpose for engagement rings? Besides serving a deterrent function, might they also serve a rehabilitation function? ("Honey, I hope that this ring rehabilitates me after I forgot your birthday.") Dare I suggest, a retributive function? ("You forgot my birthday, dear, and you must suffer for that. I've added $5000 to the minimum threshold of engagement ring I'll accept.")
I think there's a law review article waiting to be written there.
Posted by: Kaimi | May 26, 2005 10:32:29 AM
Mazel tov, Dan! Od y'shama b'arei Yehuda u'v'chutzot Yerushala’yim, kol sason v'kol simcha, kol chatan v'kol kala!
Posted by: larry | May 26, 2005 11:02:13 AM
Congratulations, Dan! What a romantic place to propose. I wish you both much happines.
To respond to Kaimi briefly, I don't think the "big ring" acts as much of a retributive tool. They function so much as a signal and a symbol that it's hard to imagine any woman, even the most venal, insisting on an increase in ring cost/size due to sins of the fiance (at least I hope not). As for rehabilitative purposes, that function--alas for you men--also wears off after a few months at best. It's not just a ring, remember!
Posted by: Laura | May 26, 2005 11:06:44 AM
Thanks for all the good wishes. On the ring front, Wendi refers to it as a big girl ring, not a big ring itself. But I suppose there's something to the deterrence to size ratio...
Posted by: Dan Markel | May 26, 2005 11:15:23 AM
Ah yes, the "big girl ring." Having already endured the painful transition from "Miss" to "M'am" I think I understand what she means.
I wish you all the happiness in the world, Danny. I can't wait to meet her and celebrate with you both!
Posted by: Soozles | May 26, 2005 12:38:08 PM
Mazel Tov Dan and Wendy!!! I am so happy for you and Wendy!!
Posted by: Amanda | May 26, 2005 12:38:12 PM
Laura -- your point on the rehabilitative value of rings seems, at the very least, not to be universally applicable. Take the case of Kobe Bryant and the big honking non-engagement ring after his press conference...
Posted by: BuddingProf | May 26, 2005 1:39:26 PM
Isn't it a bit odd that men and women still engage in this engagement ritual of wasting a large chunk of change on a stone? What are you getting in return? Perhaps her last name? The traditional groom's watch?
The classic law review article on engagement rings is Rebecca Tushnet's "Rules of Engagement" (http://www.tushnet.com/RulesofEngagement.pdf).
Congratulations in any case, of course.
Posted by: Ethan Leib | May 26, 2005 2:57:45 PM
Congratulations Dan. Best wishes.
Posted by: Craig Rolle | May 26, 2005 3:39:15 PM
Mazel Tov Danny Boy. We are so happy for you!
Posted by: Kenny Jeruchim | May 26, 2005 10:43:04 PM